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Divorce is tough. It’s filled with painful emotions that can stop you in your tracks. But what you are feeling right now does not have to take over your life.

When Happily Ever After Ends shows you how to regain control. It empowers you to look at yourself and your situation, and find a way through this time that will leave you financially sound and legally protected. By gaining an understanding of the three universal laws of every divorce, you can walk through this process with your head held high and dignity intact, and emerge a strong and healthy person.

With When Happily Ever After Ends, you can—
--Master the seven principles of negotiation
--Craft a settlement that gets you what you want
--Navigate through the litigation process knowledgeably—not in fear
--Create a financial plan that you can live with
--Learn better ways to cope when dealing with an ex

There is no magical fix and you can’t bury your head in the sand. However, there is a clear path with a true end in sight, and the knowledge this book provides can make you BE THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: The Reality and Unreality of Divorce -
The Reality of Marriage
The Reality of Divorce
Your Attitude Determines How Well You Will
Get Through the Process
Your Attitude Affects Your Behavior, and
Your Behavior Affects Everything Else
Change Your Own Behavior and You Will Change
the Entire Course of Your Divorce

Chapter 2: The Universal Laws of Divorce -
The Law of Responsibility
The Law of Control
The Law of Karma

Chapter 3: Creating a Productive Attitude in Your Divorce -
Perspective
Getting Past the Obstacles that Make You Lose Perspective
Understanding Limitations Keeps Things in Perspective

Chapter 4: The Universal Laws and the Litigation Process -
The Reality of No-Fault Divorce
Divorce 101—Your Case from Filing to Judgment
The Realities of Litigation
The Limitations of the Legal System
The Laws of the Universe and the Reality of the Legal System

Chapter 5: Alternatives to Court -
Mediation
Arbitration
Negotiation
Collaborative Law
Counseling

Chapter 6: The Reality of the Right Attorney -
Sharks Don’t Just Bite Your Spouse
Choosing the Right Lawyer
So You Have an Attorney—Now What?
What to Do When Your Lawyer Doesn’t Work Out

Chapter 7: The Financial Realities of Spousal Support -
Alimony Today
Fear, Support, and the Will to Survive
The Law of Responsibility and the Reality of Support
Make a Budget
Controlling Your Emotions while Supporting Your Ex

Chapter 8: Dividing Your Stuff and Paying Your Debts -
Money, Money, Money
You Can’t Divide What You Don’t Know Exists
Finding Hidden Assets
Understanding Your Finances
Property 101
Valuing Your Assets
Fighting Over Your Debt
What to Do After You Know What You Have

Chapter 9: Negotiating a Property Settlement -
Negotiation in a Nutshell
Applying the Negotiation Principles

Chapter 10: Strategies, Games, and Other Things that Will Make You Crazy -
The Divorce Game
The Scorch and Burn Divorce
The Ostrich Technique
The Refusal of Responsibility Game
The Expert in Everything Approach
The Constant Mind-Changer
The Righteously Indignant
The Eternal Victim
It’s Not a Good Idea to Play Games with Your Life

Chapter 11: Dealing with a Difficult Spouse -
The Two Types of Difficult Spouses
Identifying Your Difficult Spouse
Dealing with the Temporarily Difficult Spouse
Dealing with the Permanently Insane Spouse
Dealing with a Physically Abusive Spouse
Nonviolent Abusive Spouses
If You Want to Win, Stop Playing the Game
Act, Don’t React
Doing the Right Thing
Pick Your Battles
How to Cope When the Insanity Won’t Stop
The Role of Compassion

Chapter 12: The Realities of Custody, Visitation, and Child Support -
Understanding Legal Custody
Understanding Residential Custody
Visitation
What Happens When Parents Fight
What to Do about the Absentee Parent
The Realities of Supporting Your Child
Custody, Visitation, and Child Support—
How They Relate and How They Don’t
Fighting Over Money—Again

Chapter 13: The Best Interests of Your Children -
Your Divorce Does Not Have to Ruin Your Children’s Lives
Your Children are Not Pawns in the Chess Game of Your Divorce
Communicating with Your Spouse is the Most Important Thing You Can Do for Your Children
Your Children Have Two Parents
You May be Able to Control Your Children, but
You Will Never be Able to Control Your Spouse
When it Comes to Your Children, Always Take the High Road
Fighting Hurts Your Children
The Reality of Getting Along with Your Children’s Other Parent
Fighting Over the Kids is a Never-Ending Battle

Chapter 14: Creating Good Post-Decree Karma -
What Goes Around Comes Around, So Take the High Road
Dealing with Your Divorce

Appendix A: Financial Worksheets -
Appendix B: Checklists -
Appendix C: Sample Holiday Visitation Schedule -
Appendix D: Resources -
Index

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